You will only get what you deserve and not what you want in life

I was born in a Hindu-Sikh family in Calcutta where going to Gurudwara and Temple was a must; right from my childhood and I was having no choice either. During those days. I also developed my devotion towards Goddess Kali, Thakur Ram Krishna and God Shani Dev. When I was in College, I used to visit the Church, which was in the College campus. Later, when I joined my Sales profession, I started touring across the county and I used to visit Holy places including many Dargah and Mazars besides Ashram, Churches, Gurudwaras, Mosque and Temples, on a regular basis, all due to my childhood habits.

To my utmost surprise, at each Holy place, I used to communicate with my lord in my own mother tongue (Punjabi) and the prayers also used to be the same. I used to beg and the demands used to increase in quality and quantity day-after-day. If one demand of mine was met, I was ready with two more demands immediately, that too, without any hitch or hesitation, as if, putting my demands is my birth right and to fulfill those demands were HIS top most priority.

If my LORD seriously analyzed my demands, HE will not be surprised to know that all these demands came from different places of worship which included Ashram, Church, Dargah, Gurudwara, Mazar, Mosque and Temple, spread all over the country; and all the demands were similar and repetitive in nature, as if, someone was submitting photo copies of the said demands to HIM by many different channels, routes and sources.

When I became a husband and later a father, I used to ask my wife and children about the justification of each and every demand they used to make. And without listening to their justifications, I used to cancel their demands. And with their repeated requests and reasoning, I used to accept only those demands, which I used to think was right in my opinion, and their choice or preferences were not at all important, after all, it was my money and obviously the decision was also mine.

And if you ask me, what all they were demanding, movie tickets of their favourite film stars or a treat in good restaurant or visit to some hill station during holidays or new gadgets or new dresses with matching shoes, cosmetics and jewelries when someone in the relative or friend’s family got married. And last but not the least, humble request to increase the pocket money/allowance or a personal-conveyance (two/four wheeler) could be the maximum they could ask for.

I never used to honour their demands, not because I could not afford it but because I was of the opinion that it was sheer waste of money and we must not waste hard-earned money, just for the sake of fun.

Today, when I look back and evaluate my family members’ demands, it seems to me so genuine and authentic, but at that point in time I had not bothered to look into it. At that time, decision making power was in my hands and to be more honest, neither was I having any interest nor inclination to fulfill those demands.

But when I put forward my demands to my LORD, it automatically became genuine, in my opinion, justifiable and due since long. I wanted HIM to fulfill all my demands in totality and that too without asking any question or explanation.

And my LORD sitting in his chamber must have been smiling and laughing at my stupidity that in spite of all the knowledge, experience and maturity he gave me, in this life, I could not realize one thing even today that you will only get what you deserve and not what you want in life. Therefore, it’s more important to become deserving before demanding and the same is fulfilled by the nature automatically.

With Prayers

Gurcharan