We don’t have to make false promises to anyone any more.

It has never happened with me in the past, but lately, I don’t know why, I am getting more and more worried about my family. I want to finish all my responsibilities as a son, husband, father, friend and a good human being. It's more so because all the pending work should have been completed by now; all the commitments, obligations, promises and pledges, which were made to my Lord when I was in my mother’s womb; to my daughters at the time of their birth; to my friends when they accepted me as their true friend and last but not the least to my dear wife with whom I tied the knot in front of our parents, relatives, friends and the priest who performed our marriage in presence of the God Almighty.

But when I go deep down into my worries, it becomes more intense, which further makes me impatient, scared, tensed and uneasy. I need many more lives to complete, fulfill and honour all those commitments, obligations, promises and pledges, which I have made in this very life.

Now it’s very clear to me, because it’s always easy to commit but very difficult to fulfill. Today, when I have decided to actually fulfill those obligations, I am finding it very difficult, hard and almost impossible sometimes to serve them.

I am totally in a fix, I have realized after years of running around in my life that many promises are made for fun sake, they were just hollow words, which meant nothing and it was to please someone for  formality sake. But at the bottom of our hearts, we all knew for sure that we will never fulfill those promises in rest of our lives.

But in spite of all odds, we keep on repeating the same mistake, again and again, some times we do it as an old habit of promising and then breaking it - as the adage goes 'promises are made to be broken', without any guilt, regret and shame; realizing very little that what ever we have spoken in this life has been noted down with minutes details by the Mother Nature.

I have sincerely tried to fulfill those promises which are essential, important and a must. But In spite of my sincere efforts I could not do so. Now the time is running out of my hands and the D-day is fast coming closers and closers and I don’t know when the curtain of this life will come down.

Today, I have left with no option but to either act upon now or accept my defeat of in-competency, incapability and poor performance of an untrustworthy and unreliable man who couldn’t keep his words as a perfect gentleman.

Moreover, there is no choice left to me also, either you fulfill those promises or face the consequences, that’s it. Therefore, first I have tried to lookout for all the shortcuts but was not successful. Then I thought of making contingent plan but that also failed. Later, I tried to use crisis-management lessons to solve the puzzle yet failed again.

I have no confidence, guts or strength left to face the chief justice of this universe with the dignity any more. I can't deny or contradict about my mistakes, because I have done it and I must accept my responsibility whole heartedly.

Finally I have decided to stop making promises, leaving everything in HIS hands and started renewing my life on day-to-day basis. I wake up in the morning, I thank my Lord for giving me yet another day's life, I plan my day accordingly and try to finish all the day’s work before dawn. At night, before going to bed, I again request my Lord to grant me good night sleep without any disturbance and interruptions.

After a good night sleep I wake up again in the morning, I repeat the same prayer again to my Lord for the new day/night in my life. For the past three months, I am doing these things on a regular basis, and to my utmost surprise, I have nothing to loose because now I don’t have to make any more false promises to anyone any more.

With Prayers

Gurcharan