Love is not relationship it's the enroute to meet the God Almighty

The one word which has been misrepresented, misunderstood, (and if you may allow me to say), misused by ages and every time when we liked some-one, developed a soft-corner for him/her, feels like talking to that particular person uninterruptedly, again and again and last but not the least, feels like spending our  rest of  the life with him/her, in today's world, it's called, Love, prem or preet, but I strongly believed that it's not love actually, it's adjustment, infatuation, developing a liking for a particular person and it is a deal where we look forward to expect the same in return and when the targeted person does not respond the way we wanted him/her to act upon; or not accept our proposal in totality; we call him a betrayer, the person who is so insensible, unromantic, introvert, selfish, self-centered, self indulgent, can not be worth loving and we discard him/her by saying; he/she does not understand me and my inner-feelings,  not mature enough to be my partner, not of my standard and finally not worth loving, at all.

I am afraid, it's not true and it would be totally unfair on my part if I call it love. To be more specific, it's an adjustment and you can call it a social-settlement, it's like, you choose some-one and then settled down with him/her; fair enough, no-issue at all, I accept, so far so good. But my only apprehension here is, where is the actual Love, Prem or Preet, we talked about earlier?

To begin with, love is the way of living in the instructions of our Maula/Rab/Babaji/Ishwar/God Almighty (Jis haal mein Maula rakhe, us haal mein rahna hai) and doing our duties (what ever jobs we do), we do it hundred percent with our mind body and soul, . Neither I am talking about imaginary things nor it's my illusion, no not at all. Here I would like to refer to the relationship of Shri Radha Rani vs. Lord Krishna; Sudama vs. Lord Krishna; and Meera Bai vs. Lord Krishna; in case of Meea Bai, one exception here, Lord Krishna was not present in her life, but in case of Shri Radha Rani and Sudama, Thakur ji (Lord Krishna) was very much there in their lives. 

By any chance, if you are really in love with some-one, by default, you are in love with his creation, the whole-universe and his biggest creation is: Man-kind, you are in love with human-beings, to be more specific, you are in love with what-ever you see, touch, feel and hear; you start seeing him in each and every shape, size, colour and object, for you, he becomes a way of life and you always communicate with him, one to one. Here, your self-esteem merges with his super-power and all your needs, wants and desires are full- filled in totality, you left with cent percent fulfillment in all respect and you forget the hunger of mind, body and soul because he is within you and you are within him and there is no difference what-so-ever between you two.  

 

This becomes your new incarnation, where your Ambitions, Dreams, Family and Future has no relevance and your only job left is to sing in his gratitude. Since you are no more thirsty, you start giving love to the whole world, because for you he is every where, and for you the difference of sex, cast, creed and religion gets abolished and vanished automatically, all boundaries are broken and you becomes truly independent, a self- sufficient man with no Desire, Dream and Destination, but like a true Karma-yogi, you continue your journey of your life till your last breath, under the influence of his Love.  

With Prayers,

Gurcharan.

 

     

"KRISHNA and KARNA" a true Friends, Philosopher and Guides of my Life.

I m seriously thinking about a word Friendship, I strongly believed that we have not yet understood the actual and full meaning of the word Friendship, at-least I can say the same about myself. Friendship's first glimpses I have got when I first read about the friendship of Lord Krishna vs. Sudama and Karana vs. Duryodhana of Mahabharata. Today, when-ever I sit back and rewind my life and think, oh my God, they are so big, great, a real friends in-deed in each and every aspect of my life and I became so small in front of them that makes me  feel shy and ashamed of myself but they have never-ever made me feel like Sudama they always treat me at-par with them, but I know from the bottom of my heart that they are much more superior, bigger, better and great human beings, God bless them all.

I have got few very good friends and Rehnumas who are more than Krishna and Karna to me but I could not even became Sudama for them ever and if I judge myself on the scale of 1 to 10, you bet, I will not even score 1 mark, its not just that simple to become Sudama; I have spent 50 years of my life to come closer to Sudama, but I am sorry to say that, I could not justify the role of Sudama and even come nearer to Sudama, forget about becoming Sudama; but my God has always been very kind to me and he has sent so many Krishna's and Karna's in my life, who have made my life much-more meaningful, lovable, worth living and I would like to continue to live with the warm, affectonate and protective-shield of their friendship.

Today, in presence of you (as my real Judge), I want to say "Thank You" to all of them for making my life more meaning full, peaceful, smooth, happy, lovable and joyful. I can't stop mentioning few names which are blessings of Lord Krishna to me:

Mr. Arun Ahuja, Mr. Ashwini Dhawan, Mr. Awtar Singh, Mr. Alok Kumar, Mr. Ajay Chabra, Mr. Bablu Mishra, Mr. Devinder Singh Khanna, Mr. Harjinder Singh Toffee, Mr. Harbhajan Singh,  Mr. Hardeep Singh, Mr. Harjeet Singh Saggu, Mr. Hari Prakash, Mr. Mangat Ram, Mr. Milind Sampat, Mr. Naveen Nehra, Mr. Pargat Singh, Mr. Prakash Asudhani, Mr. R.K. Vasani, Mr. R. P. Yadav, Mr. Ramesh Singh, Mr. Saran Singh, Mr. S. L. Narayan, Mr. Satpal Khanna, Mr. Sathya Brato Sahu, Mr. Shyam Narayan Sharma, Mr. Tejinder Ghai, Mr. Vijay Kumar and Mr. Vikram Das.

Mr. Ashok Kumar Nandwani, Mr. Ajit Naik,  Mr. Chandra Mohan, Mr. Gautam Das, Mr. Gaurang Pandya, Mr. R. K. Malhotra, Mr. Ram Mohan Kapoor, Mr. Ravi Varma, Mr. S. K. De, Mr. Sethu Chakraborty, Mr. S. Thyagrajan,  Mr. Shishir Gupta, Mr. Ravi Inder Singh, Mr. Rahul Garg, Mr. Sudeep Singh Gill,  Mr. S. Murlidharan, Mr. Sundeep Mathur, Mr. T. Sheshagiri Rao, Mr. Vikram S. Shriram, Mr. Vinod Khetawat and Mr. Zubin Irani.

Mr. Arvind Kumar Jain, Mr. Arun Seth, Mr. Anil K. Beejawat, Mr. Alok Tibrewala,  Mr. Gurmeet S. Singh, Mr. K. K. Kapoor, Mr. M. Sri Hari Nair, Mr. Mohit James, Mr. Mukesh Khetrapal, Mr. Narinder Mohan Mittal,  Mr. Pankaj Chandra, Mr. P. Vijayraghavan, Mr. P. V. Balasubramanian, Mr. Ram Rakesh Gaur, Mr. Rajan Bahri, Mr. Sujit Bakshi,  Mr. Sundeep Agarwal, Mr. Rajesh Ghosh, Mr. Subash Singh Virdi, Mr. Sanjay Monga and Mr. T. K. Ghosh.

Prof. A. K. Kamlani, Prof. Akshey Kumar, Prof. Ajay Chowhan, Mr. Ashok Tiwari, Prof. Amit Paul Singh, Mr. B. K. Pandey, Mr. Dilbagh Singh, Mr. J. Shiva Subramanian, Dr. Mukesh Chaturvedi, Prof. Prem Mohan Lacotia, Mr. Prem Singh Bains, Dr. R. Joga Rao,  Dr. S. K. Kaushik, Mr. Shyam Makhija,  Mr. Sekhar Chandrasekhar, Dr. S. K. Pandey and Mr. Virender Kumar Shrivastava.

Dr. Amit Arora, Dr. (Mrs.) Manjari Tirpathi, Dr. Prabhat Goel, Dr. Rakshit and Dr. Sukhwant Singh

They are my Friends and well wishers who have made my life worth living, I can not pay back the help, support and guidance they have provided to me from time to time and I will always be indebted to them for-ever. At the end I pray to God almighty to Bless all my friends and give them what-ever they have ever think-of in their lives and make them the most happiest human beings and great Friends on this Universe.

With Prayers,

Sudama-gurcharan

DON'T LET IT GO JUST FACE IT

Today I have received an e-mail from my well wisher who loves me so much that he keeps on sending me good notes/messages. I am thankful to my well-wisher and my God for this act of love. And the message which I have received today from my well-wisher was, -"LET IT GO"  what ever comes your way of love/live/success/promotion/job/relationship/friendship, if it disturbs you, comes your way, block your path, make your life miserable and disturbed, just 'Let It Go'. Forget every thing and move ahead, (good thoughts naa?) in your personal, professional  and social life if any thing create a problem just 'LET IT GO'

I have read this message several times today and started letting lots of things go out of my life, but some how I could not do it, because the things which I have deleted were very much there, I have tried to delete them several times but  of no-use, it's like, after deletion from your In-box and out box mail a copy remains there in your computer-hard-disk, like-wise, these memories also remains there in my LIFE, what can I do now?.

Things which were so hard to forget, I was trying from ages to forget them, but today it again came infront of me like it has never gone any where, these-memories were very much there , but yes I was fooling myself , so that it never rewind again, but of no use; [here one management lesson, if there is any situation you have to face it and if there is any problem you have to solve it, come what may; there-after take appropriate action and close the call.]. But to be very honest with you all, I could not close the call for the following reasons: 

1) The Problem will be solved on it's own, time is a big healer, 

     [har zakham sookh jata hai samay ke sath].

2) God-sent "Rehnuma" will come in my life and solve my problems 

     [like Yaksh Dev will come in my life and solve all my problem.]   

3) By getting older, I will loose my memory and forget every thing

     [Umar ke saath meri yaad-dast bhi dhimi par-jayegi]

But life is not a film or a TV serial, life is living every minutes/second of it, it's like 24X7  exercise  and each and every second you have to breath it, [I was told  that you have to breath 24000 time approximately within 24 hours of your day to survive]. 

I have sworn in today keeping you as my Judge that today I will speak the Truth, truth and only truth.  I am sorry sir, I am unable to Let It Go. There are so many things which happened in my life in last 50 years  and the conclusion is that I could not became a good Son, Brother, Student, Husband, Father, Friend, Disciple,  Neighbour, Citizen and a Human Being. I was very selfish, self centered, self-indulgent, see self, possessive, 

living for myself. I was living life like a Mathematics student, it's like: -

1) 1st you do good to me and then I will reciprocate  accordingly. 

2) What have you done for me, let me see, I will revert back later

3) What have you brought for me, after evaluation, will get you a gift

4) You always be good to me, I will respond as per my wims/fancy 

5) You love and sacrifices for me first, I will respond after judging.

I have realized one thing with my past experience that life is not a mathematics solving  exercise, you can not always make 2+2=4, for every situation and problem you need new solutions and answers and you can not send your duplicate or dummy to face it, you have to go your-self alone and face it up-front without any help, support and assistance from my family or friends. And with due respect to all my friends, I do not have to 'Let it Go', any more, but I have to come out of this situation with full mind, body and soul keeping the conscious mind awaken and like nature, the dead leafs will automatically go and new fruits and flowers will come of its own, lets be with the nature and welcome the spring season in our life with smile and courage. 

With Prayers,

Gurcharan. 

 

LIVING LIFE WITH CONSCIOUS MIND

Today I am seriously thinking about taking Sanyas and I see no reason why I should not go for it. Here, my Sanyas will be different, what our Baba ji has taught us that while living with the family & friends, you can still  renounce the whole-world or to be more precise & specific, renounce the world's materialistic  things, which are not at all necessary to survive in this world today. But few things, which are very important to survive, say for example: - 

A) Basic needs for living: 

     Jal, vayu, Agni, Dharti aur Akash [Water, Air, Fire, Earth & Sky],
     it's available in abundance, gifted to all Mankind by Nature & God.

B) Basic needs for survival: Food, Cloths and Shelter

C) Additional needs for comfortable living: 

     Good food, Cloths, Mobile, Debit card/s, TV, Fridge, AC's

     Washing Machine, Music System, RO-plant, Laptop/Palm top.

D) Extra needs for comfortable living: 

     Good Flat, Car, Club-membership/Foreign tour with family

E) Extra needs for more comfortable and safe future: 

     Fixed Deposits in the name of my family members

F) Extra-ordinary needs for more comfortable/safe future:

     Investment in Blue chip Companies/Gold/Jewellery

   

I am sure and confident, in this life I will not be able to earn so much to have every thing which I have mentioned above. But the most important thing here is that by all means one can not earn that much in ones whole-life, working honestly. Unless otherwise, like you win a lottery ticket "bumper-offer". But the big question  is, am I  so Lucky to win a jack-pot in this life-time? It sound so funny, un-realistic, un-practical and un-professional. How stupid I am even to think of all these things; why because, you do not even know about tomorrow and you are talking about secured-future, how absurd, -" Kal ka patta nahi aur chale hai bhawishya banane." 

One more thing, why I want to secure my future. Baba ji says, live for today, do your best honestly, sincerely and gracefully with-out hurting, cheating, bluffing, hiding and stealing any-one, ever and rest will come to place automatically and keep my-self, free, not pre-occupied,  with-out having deep relationship and engagement, because I will get a call from the BIG-BOSS/God Almighty, any time; and believe me, every thing will be left behind, [included all family members, cash, fixed-deposit, gold, property, shares/debentures, car, house-hold things, name, fame, designation, medals etc..] because, Antim-yatra per to Nir-vastra evam Aakele hi jana padta hai na. So why worry about secured future, let him [God-Almighty] secure our futute and we live our life for today only cent percent with our full Mind, Body & Soul and give our 100% to our family, our-job, our society, our friends and our-selves, keeping only one thing in our mind - "Mera Mujh mein kuch nahi, jo kuch hai so tera, tera tujh ko sopea kya lage mera". with an awakening and conscious mind.

     

Therefore, I have decided from today, I will live my life like a Sanyasi at the same time, perform all my duties with sincerity, honesty, hard work and without cheating, bluffing, hurting any-body physically or emotionally and giving my best and cent percent to what-ever I do. I will also consume the bare minimum things which  are actually required and necessary to survive [food, cloth and shelter only]. Please pray for me, so that I can stick to my resolution of Sanyas today with my conscious-mind and every new day of my life, till I live. May God Bless us all. Sab Da Rab Rakha.

With Prayers,

gurcharan.

Life being very kind to me

Today being a holiday, whole day I have spent at home, just thinking about my life, it may sound very possessive about myself, but its true. I was thinking of my past life of 50 years; you can call it "lekha-jokha" of my Life's deeds good and bad and I was shocked to see the result. To be honest, it was more of negatives rather then positives. I feel so ashamed and guilty of what all I have done. I have never been a good son to my parents, never a good brother, good husband,  good father & good friend. I have never given my 100% to them, I have always been a miser (kanjus) in relationship. But when I look back, I can not rewind my life again, I cant go back a live those moments again with them and yes few people have already left this world; so how will I go back to them and say I Love You So Much. I know it's too late but let me confess keeping you all (readers) as my judge. 

To begin with, it is my father who left us on 5th of May 2002. Bapuji "I love you so much and I miss you a lot". I have not done any thing for you when you were with us, that time I was young and arrogant and I was having no time for you, -"I am sorry Bappu ji, please pardon me, mujhe maaf karen". 

Second most important person is my wife who has given me the best years of her life which were full of love, affection, care, concern and always doing little extra to make my life more comfortable happy and peaceful. But I have not done even 10% of what she has done to me. But still I want to say her, -"I love you very much".

Third most important persons are my three beautiful daughters, who are the proof of my existence. Elder-one and the most lovable daughter of mine has just got married in February this year and I miss her a lot. -"I love you so much and you will always remain the third most important lady of my life" (after my mother & wife) . And I will always love her very much. -"Please pardon me Beta for not being a good father to you". 

My second and third daughters are also a great gift of God and it's the real possession of my life they are my real "Kuber Ka Khajana" and I don't want to loose them because they are the real wealth of my life. Oh my lord, give me enough strength, wealth & good health so that I can do my best to make their life more comfortable, safe, happy, healthy, peaceful of lovable and also get them what-ever they want in their life. -"I love you both very much and I want to wish you both all the very best in your life and all your dreams may come true Beta, Amen!"

Now comes the turn of my few very good friends who are the real jewel of my life and they are like Lord Krishna for me but I never became a real Sudama to them. I think I am more poorer then Sudama and I am sure they will excuse me for my one-track mind & selfish motives. I pray to God for their Happy, Healthy, Wealthy life and they will get what-ever they want in their life. And I want to say them- " I love you all and I will always there for you, ever, trust me".

I am feeling relaxed now, may be all of them will understand me and pardon me this time. And I promise, I will try to be a better Son, Husband, Father &  Friend, I promise. At the end, I request all of you to please pray for me so that I can become a better person and a good human being so that I can love them all hundred percent.

With Prayers, apka,

Sudama-gurcharan. 

ME AND MY VIEWS: WHAT IS THERE IN A NAME

ME AND MY VIEWS: WHAT IS THERE IN A NAME

WHAT IS THERE IN A NAME

I always wonder, what is my identity, is it my name or my father's name, place of birth, community, religion, nation or is there some thing else which makes me different from others. The God has created Human Beings and every individual is having a different finger prints. In India today, all the 110 crore people of India are having different finger prints, it's true.

But two people have done some thing different, they are: -

1) Ms. ARCHANA (PURAN) SINGH [Hindi Film Actress]

2) Mr. SANJAY (LEELA) BANSALI  [Hindi Film Producer+Director]

These two people have got the guts and courage to tell the world that this is our name which also add the names of their Father and Mother respectively. And believe you me, I have very high regards for both of them because they are different and their one act has made them different from rest of the world.

There may be many more people around the world who have done some thing different and not followed the conventional way of doing things in LIFE; we in Management call's it -"THINKING OUT OF THE BOX".

So next time if you want to do some thing different, do not just think, go ahead and do it. May God be with you.

Yours Sincerely,

Gurcharan