SHE IS MY REAL LIFE-LINE

The second most important lady in my life is my beloved wife, (after my mother), who is the most  beautiful, simple, honest, straight forward and a good human being. Besides, she is not only a good wife but also an obedient daughter-in-law, dedicated mother, adjustable sister-in-law, true friend and a good neighbor. At the same time, she also play a different role in  my life; being a wonderful wife; sensible human being; equal partner in all deed and acts; turned out to be  my strong critic; philosopher and guide, as and when required and a true lover in the real sense. Today I can say without any hesitation that she is a better person than me and she is really good, decent and a charming lady of my life.

But when I compare myself with her, I do not feel comfortable, happy and satisfied with my approach towards her and I strongly feel and believe that I have failed in many real-life situations and have never came up to her expectations in many occasions, and my male ego has always created tension between our relationship. I could not became a good husband, better father to my children and a good human being for the society. But yes, in spite of all odd, she always came out a real winner in all situations, because she always took her right foot forward towards the real-life  situations and goals and did what she thought and believed was right at that point in time,  and she has also forced me to act-upon, accordingly.

I wonder, without her, if I could have lived my life so comfortably and when I see my most beautiful daughters with right attitudes, mannerism, sanskaras and knowledge, which makes me a proud and satisfied father, but again, the entire credit goes to my wife, who has dedicated her entire life to serve me and my family, without expecting any thing in return.

I sometimes imagine, what will happen to our relationship when she will come to know that I have never been an honest, faithful, dedicated and committed husband to her? I have learnt the art of  playing with my wife's emotions in several ways and she  has never created an ugly scene in front of my parents and children and she has always kept quite to maintain harmony and peace in the family. I  know for sure, she was  always aware about it,  but she never said a single word against my decision and she silently accepted my injustice, arrogance, ruthlessness, hardheadedness, illogical arguments and stupidity in the name of my  male ego, for years together.

I wish, if I could have rewind my life again and correct my wrong doings but it's not possible now and my simply saying Sorry to my wife will also not serve any purpose and it shall not maintained the sensitivity of the situation, any more. But yes, I can do one thing, by not repeating those  mistakes, deeds and acts again, and I will not hurt my wife anymore by my words, acts or deeds, I promise, because she is the most important person in my life whom I love very much.

With Prayers

Gurcharan

The 1st Wonder of this Universe

I do not know for how long I will live in this world but I have realized one thing, that there is someone up there who not only watch us but also do the needful as and when required,  (I only knew about one universe, but I am sure there may be many more similar worlds in the space), and His decision, actions, timing and solutions are unparalleled, unmatched, unthinkable. It's so perfect that you just cannot find any fault or defect in it and you can say that these are ISI marked creations made with zero defect, having life-long guarantee manufactured by an ISO-9000 certified Organization, which is even bigger than first five Fortune-500 companies of this world. 

He is known by many names in this part of the world: - Allaha, Bhagwan, Babaji, Devta, Guru, God, Ishwar, Jesus, Karim, Maula, Thakur ji,  Parmatama, Parmeshwar, Prabhu,  Parvadigar, Rahim, Sant, Swamy, Sai aur Thakur ji; Jisne Jal, Vayu, Agni, Dharti aur Akash banae; Jisne Surya, Chand aur Tare Banae; Jisne Jheele, Nadiyan, Nale, Sagar aur Samunder banae; Jisne unche aur vishal Parvat banae, Jisne Per, Paudhe, Vanaspati, Phal, Phool aur Anaaj banae; Jisne, Pashu, Panshi, Keet, Patange, Janvar aur Insaan banea; Kaun hai woh who has created this world with so much perfection and without any tolerance that you just can not find a single defect in the entire system?

First I thought, He must be an Actor, Artist, Astronaut, Dancer, Musician, Motivator, Teacher, Poet,  Painter,  Professor,  Philosopher, Scientist,   Singer,  Social-worker and Writer. Thereafter, I felt, he must be  an Architect, B.Com,  Chartered Accounted, Cost Accountant, Doctor, Engineer, IT-professional, Journalist, Lawyer, MBA or MCA. And He must be a leed-Certified Auditor, otherwise how he can create such a wonderful and beautiful world with full of green plants. 

Moreover,  you really think that one man can have so much of knowledge, skills, talent, expertise, experience, innovative mind, soft and hard skills to create such a beautiful, marvelous and wonderful world, which is the most innovative, unique, fantastic world which became the first wonder of this universe, believe me this is the best thing ever happened to this civilized world. Last but not the least, he loves each and every member of His family without any partiality, preference or choice and for Him all are equals.     

And at the end, I have realized one thing that He is not what all I have mentioned above, He is beyond anybody's imagination, thinking and guess-work. And our Babaji has defined  Him in one Shloka: - "Ek Onkar, Satnam, Karta Purukh, Nirbhav, Nirvair, Akaal Murat, Ajouni Saibhang, Gurprasad,  Jap, Adi Sach, Jugadi Such, Hai Bhi Such, Nanak Hausi Bhi Sach". 

With Prayers

Gurcharan

 

THERE IS NO SHORTAGE OF GOOD SOULS IN LIFE!

Whenever I see around myself I feel so amazed, astonished, stunned and deeply surprised to see His wisdom which is full of surprises and everyday I come across many such surprises which are unimaginable, unthinkable  and unexpected. I want to thank Him from the bottom of my heart for his beautiful world and his creation. 

To begin with, the first person to whom I owe my whole life, and who loves me the most in this world is my mother. Then came my teacher who first introduced me with the books. Later when I went to college and met our college prefect Father Zoris, who introduced me with "Jesus Christ" and took me to the church (which was in our college campus) and he said that He is my God Almighty who has scarified his life for humanity.

After completing my college I joined my first job and met my first boss Mr. Ram Mohan Kapoor, who literally took me to the field and teach me how to deal with customers and made me a perfect salesman. Till date, I am simply following his advices and instructions, and believe me, I have never failed in my job.

Then came my second job where I met my second boss Mr. Ravi Verma who trained me, how to sell  Hi-Tech products to a technical person with ease, without actually being an engineer and throughout my career, (I being a non-technical person), I have been successfully selling and marketing Hi-Tech products.

And when I met my third boss in my third job Mr. Sudeep Singh Gill, it was not very comfortable position in the beginning, because, he was my customer in my previous job and when I finally renounce my so called ego, I realized, he is gem of a person, who gave me the mantra's of selling steel and wire products to the Institutional clients and Dealer's segments simultaneously,  without any problem.

Later, when I met Mr. Sundeep Mathur in my previous job, who turned my life upside down by giving new meanings to my life, with induction of new prospective, vision, objective and goal. He is the one who actually    gave a new lease to my personal and professional life by way of his true love, affection, guidance and blessings. And last but not the least, he made  me a thorough Sales professional with a very clear and focus aim on the target audience and he categorically told me to satisfy each and every client by offering right product-mix along with personal touch and dedicated after-sale-service, so that each client can get more than what he want. He also advised me, not to make wrong sale to any prospective customer for short term gains, because the customer is also a human being who think, feel and behave like any other human being of this world. 

I have also met so many people with whom I have worked directly and their advice and instructions have made my professional journey smooth, steady and hurdle free, which I can never forget; they are: - Mr. Ashok Nandwani,  Mr, Chandra Mohan, Mr. Gautam Das, Mr. S. L. Narayan, Mr. Shishir Gupta, Mr. S. Thyagarajan, Mr. S. Murlidharan and Mr. Sethu Chakrabarty,               

Similarly, I have also met many people with whom I could not work in this life, but  I will never forget  their help, support and blessings; they are: -  Mr. Arun Seth, Mr. Anil K. Beejawat, Mr. Alok Tibrewala,  Mr. D. K. Srivastava,  Mr. Gurmeet S. Singh, Mr. M. Srihari Nair, Mr. Mohit James, Mr. P. V. Balasubramanian, Mr. R. Rakesh Gaur, Mr. S. S. Virdi, Mr. Sanjay Monga,  Mr. T. K. Mukherjee,  Mr. Umesh Sharma and Mr. V. P. Singh. 

I have also met many "Dev-Purush" with good souls  who have contributed a great deal in making my life more meaningful, comfortable and happy; they are the real angels of my life: - Mr. Alok Sakhlani,  Prof. Akshya Kumar, Prof. A. P. Singh, Prof. Ajay Chowhan, Dr. Deepankar Chakrabarty, Dr. Mukesh Chaturvedi, Prof. Prem Mohan Lacotia, Dr. Satish Chandra Kaushik,  Dr. S. K. Jha, Dr. S. K. Pandey and Mr. Virender Srivastava.

God being very kind to me and I pray to God almighty to bless them all with his wisdom,  so that they can  achieve new heights in their personal and professional life and they may always help and assist those who need it the most.  

With Prayers

Gurcharan 

 

 

IS THIS WHAT WE WANTED IN OUR LIFE?

There are two type of people in our society, one who make mistake and learn from it and never repeat the same mistake again; second category is of those people who learn from others mistake and never  commit such mistakes again. But still, we intentionally or unintentionally try to repeat our  this act of negligence, which is not well thought of. Although, we do have some other options open to us in that point in time, but since we are in a hurry and we wanted an instant results, hence we do not mind crossing our own line of control, which we have drawn ourselves, not meant to be crossed over; but knowingly pretty well that the end result would be negative and it will be very selfish move on our part to do such an act. Usually, we do such things only when we ourselves are on the target and we are so clever that, somehow or the other, we convince ourselves that, this is grave situation and we have to take a decision and it's  matter of life and death,  and our pet phrase for such a situation is: - "every thing is fair in love and war".

Over the years, we became so self centered, self indulgent and extremely  selfish that we want every thing  in life at our terms and conditions and we are not ready to compromise,  because neither we have the interest nor inclination to listen to other view's or to see their prospective; here our prime motive is to have, what we wanted and we do not care what others think about it, and to be honest, we don't mind it also.   

We are living in a civilized society where we have fairly well educated and sensitive people.  We have learned to live the life of hypocrisy, we do not mind amending society rules and regulations  in our favour and we have learned one lesson that, everything is fair, if  we have the power of M (money),  we can make our own laws, rules, regulations and the life will run the way  we want it to run, no questions asked.

It's a very sad situation, because this not what we have asked our God Almighty to bless us with. We wanted a fairly good life which must be full of love, peace and joy; but  such a life  based on these terms  and conditions, which is horrible,  pathetic and painful is not wanted. We never thought even once, what will happen when the same thing will be repeated with us and/or to our loved-one by some one else because yesterday we were  in a hurry and today Mr. X is in a hurry and tomorrow Mr. Y will be in the same situation.  And there is no end of these unethical, unprofessional, unreasonable and unwanted acts, which may look like a life and death situation on the face of  it,  but to be honest, life is not mathematics and it can not be predicted the way we want it to be,  because after all, it's His world and wisdom where everyone has to follow certain rules and regulations, weather it's  Nature, Sun, Moon or Man, everyone has to be within His command and  run under his instructions, come what may, which were made by the God almighty; after all,  human life is a great gift of God to this universe.

With Prayers

Gurcharan 

 

Prove it that you deserve it

Today if you go to any good book store in your city, you will find lots of best sellers and at the same time you will also have vast range of Self Help books on many different subjects and it becomes really difficult some times to choose a right book. However, I have read many Self help books and found them interesting but at the same time it makes me very sad; because by reading it, weather the reader will get the benefit from the said book could be anybody's guess,  but the author and the publisher of these books will definitely become  millionaires by publishing these books.

The self help books are real indicators, a road map, or if you allow me to say, a real guide,  and they will tell us honestly how to plan our strategy,  to achieve our life's personal and professional goals. But before the self help books come for our help; do we really know what we want in our life, why we want it, how serious are we, how important it is, and how far can we go, in our life, to get it and last but not the least, do we really deserve it. I am not talking about someone's heredity, capabilities, luck, destiny or blessings. Yes these things are important in life but the most important thing is our determination, aim, objective, one mindedness approach,  sincere efforts, hard work with hundred percent honesty, fairness, and confidence. Trust me, God Almighty's blessings will automatically come along and the entire nature, holy spirits and blessings of our loved-one's to make it happen so that we can get it the way we want it, without any change/correction/amendment in our life. It's our confidence, analytical skills, determination, honesty, dedication,  positive attitude, prayer  with mind, body and soul and  believe in our life's goal and objective, which will bring the positive results.

I have also learned one more very important thing in my life that just by day dreaming or by asking for a thing will not make us eligible to have it. Insted one has to prove, first to himself, to nature and then to God Almighty that I need it the most and will not do anything wrong or unethical to get it, I will not steal, cheat or occupy someone else's share, and come what may, I will never ever beg for it, trust me. 

And my Master says, if you prove to nature that you really deserve what you have asked for  it  believe  me, the entire nature, Holy Spirits and God Almighty will come forward to bless you with what you have asked for and you are going to get  on the D-day when God's Angels will come and deliver it at our door-step, trust me.

With Prayers

Gurcharan.   

       

 

Human life is the biggest gift of God to Man-kind

Since my childhood I was having the habit of asking my God for every  small thing, right from a pen, magazine, book, movie ticket and  every other thing which was not easily available to me. later, when I grew old the list of  my demands kept on increasing and one day the list became so big that I started writing  it on paper and in the morning when I used to sit for my morning-prayer, I used to read that list in front of my  God with a request that he must fulfill all my demands immediately.

Fifty years have passed since, but I have not stopped asking my God for big and small things and  in this  process, I never realized when I became a lousy-beggar from a disciple in front of my own God and I  never ever felt sorry about it.  I  have no rational reasons for my demand, and yes, it is also true that earlier, I used to ask for myself, then for my wife later I started asking for my children and today the ratio of my demand  is 70:30 [family:self] and I keep asking my God for materialistic things without any hesitation or regret.

Today when I look back, I feel so ashamed, guilty and have no hesitation in calling myself a most selfish man on this earth, I feel pity on myself and I know for sure that my Lord will not pardon me. I do not deserve  his mercy and  I cannot be excused by simply saying  sorry to him. My sins can be wiped-out only if I feel the same from the bottom of my heart and I will stop asking and start saying thank you to my God Almighty for every thing that is happening in my life. 

Moreover, to be honest with you, whatever I have asked for in my life, I got more than what I expected and deserved; what I planned for my future, it never happened and whatever  has happened in my life was never planned, and it were all beyond expectations. He gave me more than what I deserved but I was never  satisfied in my life and my demands never stopped. But today, when I look back and see, I feel like a stupid idiot who lived his whole life simply begging for more and more and there was no end of  my expectations,  needs, wants and desires.

Today, I have decided, once and for all, that I will not ask for any thing more from my Lord,  be satisfied  and condensed with whatever I have in my life, thank him for  every thing and simply do my part of  the job/duty, fulfill my responsibility and follow his instructions without asking any questions. I do not know for how long I will be able to perform this unselfish act; and whatever time I have  in this life time, I pray to God Almighty, to at-least give me one more chance, to live my life like a perfect gentleman and a good human being with dignity, humbleness and love;   therefore, please pray for me, so that I must not beg  in this life again.

With Prayers,

Gurcharan.     

The real Jewels of my life

This world is full of great peoples, good souls, perfect gentlemen and women; since my childhood, I had met many such personalities in-person, but in some cases, I have not been very lucky, and I could not meet them till date, but yes I have seen them, watched them and have read about them. You can call me crazy, nuts or my sheer madness, but yes,  I used to adore them, worship them, watch them very closely and love them, even today, from the bottom of my heart.

1) Mr.. Gurcharan Das (Ex-President of Procter and Gamble), writer and marketing guru. I always admired him as a marketing pandit and wanted to meet him once in my life time.

2) Mr. Gulzar sahib, great lyricist, writer, producer, director and editor of Hindi-cinema. I love all his songs, movies and poems. And his one particular song from the film Khamoshi sung by Ms. Lata Mangeshkar, is very closed to my heart, (Humne dekhi hai in-akhon mein).

3) Ms. Kiran Bedi (Ex-IPS Office) who was a performer through-out her career and what-ever work she has done, it was done with her hard-work, dedication, determination and completed with her full mind, body and soul and she gave her hundred percent to every assignment she took and the results were beyond comparission and she excelled in what-ever work she has ever-done. For me she has always been the source of my inspiration.

4) Sardar Khushwant Singh, the great journalist, novelist and writer of many books on Sikhism and I became his fan when I was in School and I started reading " The Illustrated Weekly of India" magazine.

5) Ms. Megha Patkar, who lived her whole life for others without any ambition or any personal gains  such people are here in this world with us who taught us how to live for others; and I always take strength from her, when-ever I feel low in my life.

6) Mr. Manishankar Mukhopadhya, known as "Shankar" in the Bengali literary circle and he has written many great Bengali novels including Chowranghee. I have read all his books but his novel "Jana-aranaya" is very closed to my heart till date.

7) Mr. Pranoy Roy, the great TV journalist of India, who gave us many  "First" in Indian  TV-entertainment world, to begin with The World This Week [TWTW], Star News (presented by NDTV in early days), Election news analysis, NDTV 24X7, NDTV India and NDTV Imagine etc.. etc... But till date his first weekly news programme TWTW is my favourite.

8) Mr. Shiv (HCL) Nadar, an Entrepreneur, perfect businessman and an IT-tycoon who made an Indian company at par with top-class IT companies of the world. I wish, we must have many more like him in this country.

9) Mr. Sunil Bharti Mittal, a leader of Mobile-sector and first generation businessman who made history in Indian telecommunication world, he was, he is and he will be the King of Telecom-Industry in the world. 

10) Mr. Ratan Naval Tata, Chairman of Tata empire, perfect Businessman and a Gentleman. 

And few good men and women of God with whom I could not meet in this life time, may be,  when I will leave this world and meet my God in heavens,  (I am sure and confident), I will find them their with  our God Almighty, Amen!

1) Ms. Ayn Rand

2) Ms. Amrita Pritam

3) Shri Dhiru Bhai Ambani

4) Shri Ghan Shyam Das Birla

5) Sardar Gurbaksh Singh (Preet-lari wale)

6) Sardar Bahadur Sir Inder Singh

7) Shri Jamshedji Narsevanji Tata

8) Shri Jaddu Krishna Murti

9) Shri Mohan Das Karam Chand Gandhi

10) Lala Shriram

With Prayers,

Gurcharan