Prove it that you deserve it

Today if you go to any good book store in your city, you will find lots of best sellers and at the same time you will also have vast range of Self Help books on many different subjects and it becomes really difficult some times to choose a right book. However, I have read many Self help books and found them interesting but at the same time it makes me very sad; because by reading it, weather the reader will get the benefit from the said book could be anybody's guess,  but the author and the publisher of these books will definitely become  millionaires by publishing these books.

The self help books are real indicators, a road map, or if you allow me to say, a real guide,  and they will tell us honestly how to plan our strategy,  to achieve our life's personal and professional goals. But before the self help books come for our help; do we really know what we want in our life, why we want it, how serious are we, how important it is, and how far can we go, in our life, to get it and last but not the least, do we really deserve it. I am not talking about someone's heredity, capabilities, luck, destiny or blessings. Yes these things are important in life but the most important thing is our determination, aim, objective, one mindedness approach,  sincere efforts, hard work with hundred percent honesty, fairness, and confidence. Trust me, God Almighty's blessings will automatically come along and the entire nature, holy spirits and blessings of our loved-one's to make it happen so that we can get it the way we want it, without any change/correction/amendment in our life. It's our confidence, analytical skills, determination, honesty, dedication,  positive attitude, prayer  with mind, body and soul and  believe in our life's goal and objective, which will bring the positive results.

I have also learned one more very important thing in my life that just by day dreaming or by asking for a thing will not make us eligible to have it. Insted one has to prove, first to himself, to nature and then to God Almighty that I need it the most and will not do anything wrong or unethical to get it, I will not steal, cheat or occupy someone else's share, and come what may, I will never ever beg for it, trust me. 

And my Master says, if you prove to nature that you really deserve what you have asked for  it  believe  me, the entire nature, Holy Spirits and God Almighty will come forward to bless you with what you have asked for and you are going to get  on the D-day when God's Angels will come and deliver it at our door-step, trust me.

With Prayers

Gurcharan.   

       

 

Human life is the biggest gift of God to Man-kind

Since my childhood I was having the habit of asking my God for every  small thing, right from a pen, magazine, book, movie ticket and  every other thing which was not easily available to me. later, when I grew old the list of  my demands kept on increasing and one day the list became so big that I started writing  it on paper and in the morning when I used to sit for my morning-prayer, I used to read that list in front of my  God with a request that he must fulfill all my demands immediately.

Fifty years have passed since, but I have not stopped asking my God for big and small things and  in this  process, I never realized when I became a lousy-beggar from a disciple in front of my own God and I  never ever felt sorry about it.  I  have no rational reasons for my demand, and yes, it is also true that earlier, I used to ask for myself, then for my wife later I started asking for my children and today the ratio of my demand  is 70:30 [family:self] and I keep asking my God for materialistic things without any hesitation or regret.

Today when I look back, I feel so ashamed, guilty and have no hesitation in calling myself a most selfish man on this earth, I feel pity on myself and I know for sure that my Lord will not pardon me. I do not deserve  his mercy and  I cannot be excused by simply saying  sorry to him. My sins can be wiped-out only if I feel the same from the bottom of my heart and I will stop asking and start saying thank you to my God Almighty for every thing that is happening in my life. 

Moreover, to be honest with you, whatever I have asked for in my life, I got more than what I expected and deserved; what I planned for my future, it never happened and whatever  has happened in my life was never planned, and it were all beyond expectations. He gave me more than what I deserved but I was never  satisfied in my life and my demands never stopped. But today, when I look back and see, I feel like a stupid idiot who lived his whole life simply begging for more and more and there was no end of  my expectations,  needs, wants and desires.

Today, I have decided, once and for all, that I will not ask for any thing more from my Lord,  be satisfied  and condensed with whatever I have in my life, thank him for  every thing and simply do my part of  the job/duty, fulfill my responsibility and follow his instructions without asking any questions. I do not know for how long I will be able to perform this unselfish act; and whatever time I have  in this life time, I pray to God Almighty, to at-least give me one more chance, to live my life like a perfect gentleman and a good human being with dignity, humbleness and love;   therefore, please pray for me, so that I must not beg  in this life again.

With Prayers,

Gurcharan.     

The real Jewels of my life

This world is full of great peoples, good souls, perfect gentlemen and women; since my childhood, I had met many such personalities in-person, but in some cases, I have not been very lucky, and I could not meet them till date, but yes I have seen them, watched them and have read about them. You can call me crazy, nuts or my sheer madness, but yes,  I used to adore them, worship them, watch them very closely and love them, even today, from the bottom of my heart.

1) Mr.. Gurcharan Das (Ex-President of Procter and Gamble), writer and marketing guru. I always admired him as a marketing pandit and wanted to meet him once in my life time.

2) Mr. Gulzar sahib, great lyricist, writer, producer, director and editor of Hindi-cinema. I love all his songs, movies and poems. And his one particular song from the film Khamoshi sung by Ms. Lata Mangeshkar, is very closed to my heart, (Humne dekhi hai in-akhon mein).

3) Ms. Kiran Bedi (Ex-IPS Office) who was a performer through-out her career and what-ever work she has done, it was done with her hard-work, dedication, determination and completed with her full mind, body and soul and she gave her hundred percent to every assignment she took and the results were beyond comparission and she excelled in what-ever work she has ever-done. For me she has always been the source of my inspiration.

4) Sardar Khushwant Singh, the great journalist, novelist and writer of many books on Sikhism and I became his fan when I was in School and I started reading " The Illustrated Weekly of India" magazine.

5) Ms. Megha Patkar, who lived her whole life for others without any ambition or any personal gains  such people are here in this world with us who taught us how to live for others; and I always take strength from her, when-ever I feel low in my life.

6) Mr. Manishankar Mukhopadhya, known as "Shankar" in the Bengali literary circle and he has written many great Bengali novels including Chowranghee. I have read all his books but his novel "Jana-aranaya" is very closed to my heart till date.

7) Mr. Pranoy Roy, the great TV journalist of India, who gave us many  "First" in Indian  TV-entertainment world, to begin with The World This Week [TWTW], Star News (presented by NDTV in early days), Election news analysis, NDTV 24X7, NDTV India and NDTV Imagine etc.. etc... But till date his first weekly news programme TWTW is my favourite.

8) Mr. Shiv (HCL) Nadar, an Entrepreneur, perfect businessman and an IT-tycoon who made an Indian company at par with top-class IT companies of the world. I wish, we must have many more like him in this country.

9) Mr. Sunil Bharti Mittal, a leader of Mobile-sector and first generation businessman who made history in Indian telecommunication world, he was, he is and he will be the King of Telecom-Industry in the world. 

10) Mr. Ratan Naval Tata, Chairman of Tata empire, perfect Businessman and a Gentleman. 

And few good men and women of God with whom I could not meet in this life time, may be,  when I will leave this world and meet my God in heavens,  (I am sure and confident), I will find them their with  our God Almighty, Amen!

1) Ms. Ayn Rand

2) Ms. Amrita Pritam

3) Shri Dhiru Bhai Ambani

4) Shri Ghan Shyam Das Birla

5) Sardar Gurbaksh Singh (Preet-lari wale)

6) Sardar Bahadur Sir Inder Singh

7) Shri Jamshedji Narsevanji Tata

8) Shri Jaddu Krishna Murti

9) Shri Mohan Das Karam Chand Gandhi

10) Lala Shriram

With Prayers,

Gurcharan

Love is not relationship it's the enroute to meet the God Almighty

The one word which has been misrepresented, misunderstood, (and if you may allow me to say), misused by ages and every time when we liked some-one, developed a soft-corner for him/her, feels like talking to that particular person uninterruptedly, again and again and last but not the least, feels like spending our  rest of  the life with him/her, in today's world, it's called, Love, prem or preet, but I strongly believed that it's not love actually, it's adjustment, infatuation, developing a liking for a particular person and it is a deal where we look forward to expect the same in return and when the targeted person does not respond the way we wanted him/her to act upon; or not accept our proposal in totality; we call him a betrayer, the person who is so insensible, unromantic, introvert, selfish, self-centered, self indulgent, can not be worth loving and we discard him/her by saying; he/she does not understand me and my inner-feelings,  not mature enough to be my partner, not of my standard and finally not worth loving, at all.

I am afraid, it's not true and it would be totally unfair on my part if I call it love. To be more specific, it's an adjustment and you can call it a social-settlement, it's like, you choose some-one and then settled down with him/her; fair enough, no-issue at all, I accept, so far so good. But my only apprehension here is, where is the actual Love, Prem or Preet, we talked about earlier?

To begin with, love is the way of living in the instructions of our Maula/Rab/Babaji/Ishwar/God Almighty (Jis haal mein Maula rakhe, us haal mein rahna hai) and doing our duties (what ever jobs we do), we do it hundred percent with our mind body and soul, . Neither I am talking about imaginary things nor it's my illusion, no not at all. Here I would like to refer to the relationship of Shri Radha Rani vs. Lord Krishna; Sudama vs. Lord Krishna; and Meera Bai vs. Lord Krishna; in case of Meea Bai, one exception here, Lord Krishna was not present in her life, but in case of Shri Radha Rani and Sudama, Thakur ji (Lord Krishna) was very much there in their lives. 

By any chance, if you are really in love with some-one, by default, you are in love with his creation, the whole-universe and his biggest creation is: Man-kind, you are in love with human-beings, to be more specific, you are in love with what-ever you see, touch, feel and hear; you start seeing him in each and every shape, size, colour and object, for you, he becomes a way of life and you always communicate with him, one to one. Here, your self-esteem merges with his super-power and all your needs, wants and desires are full- filled in totality, you left with cent percent fulfillment in all respect and you forget the hunger of mind, body and soul because he is within you and you are within him and there is no difference what-so-ever between you two.  

 

This becomes your new incarnation, where your Ambitions, Dreams, Family and Future has no relevance and your only job left is to sing in his gratitude. Since you are no more thirsty, you start giving love to the whole world, because for you he is every where, and for you the difference of sex, cast, creed and religion gets abolished and vanished automatically, all boundaries are broken and you becomes truly independent, a self- sufficient man with no Desire, Dream and Destination, but like a true Karma-yogi, you continue your journey of your life till your last breath, under the influence of his Love.  

With Prayers,

Gurcharan.

 

     

"KRISHNA and KARNA" a true Friends, Philosopher and Guides of my Life.

I m seriously thinking about a word Friendship, I strongly believed that we have not yet understood the actual and full meaning of the word Friendship, at-least I can say the same about myself. Friendship's first glimpses I have got when I first read about the friendship of Lord Krishna vs. Sudama and Karana vs. Duryodhana of Mahabharata. Today, when-ever I sit back and rewind my life and think, oh my God, they are so big, great, a real friends in-deed in each and every aspect of my life and I became so small in front of them that makes me  feel shy and ashamed of myself but they have never-ever made me feel like Sudama they always treat me at-par with them, but I know from the bottom of my heart that they are much more superior, bigger, better and great human beings, God bless them all.

I have got few very good friends and Rehnumas who are more than Krishna and Karna to me but I could not even became Sudama for them ever and if I judge myself on the scale of 1 to 10, you bet, I will not even score 1 mark, its not just that simple to become Sudama; I have spent 50 years of my life to come closer to Sudama, but I am sorry to say that, I could not justify the role of Sudama and even come nearer to Sudama, forget about becoming Sudama; but my God has always been very kind to me and he has sent so many Krishna's and Karna's in my life, who have made my life much-more meaningful, lovable, worth living and I would like to continue to live with the warm, affectonate and protective-shield of their friendship.

Today, in presence of you (as my real Judge), I want to say "Thank You" to all of them for making my life more meaning full, peaceful, smooth, happy, lovable and joyful. I can't stop mentioning few names which are blessings of Lord Krishna to me:

Mr. Arun Ahuja, Mr. Ashwini Dhawan, Mr. Awtar Singh, Mr. Alok Kumar, Mr. Ajay Chabra, Mr. Bablu Mishra, Mr. Devinder Singh Khanna, Mr. Harjinder Singh Toffee, Mr. Harbhajan Singh,  Mr. Hardeep Singh, Mr. Harjeet Singh Saggu, Mr. Hari Prakash, Mr. Mangat Ram, Mr. Milind Sampat, Mr. Naveen Nehra, Mr. Pargat Singh, Mr. Prakash Asudhani, Mr. R.K. Vasani, Mr. R. P. Yadav, Mr. Ramesh Singh, Mr. Saran Singh, Mr. S. L. Narayan, Mr. Satpal Khanna, Mr. Sathya Brato Sahu, Mr. Shyam Narayan Sharma, Mr. Tejinder Ghai, Mr. Vijay Kumar and Mr. Vikram Das.

Mr. Ashok Kumar Nandwani, Mr. Ajit Naik,  Mr. Chandra Mohan, Mr. Gautam Das, Mr. Gaurang Pandya, Mr. R. K. Malhotra, Mr. Ram Mohan Kapoor, Mr. Ravi Varma, Mr. S. K. De, Mr. Sethu Chakraborty, Mr. S. Thyagrajan,  Mr. Shishir Gupta, Mr. Ravi Inder Singh, Mr. Rahul Garg, Mr. Sudeep Singh Gill,  Mr. S. Murlidharan, Mr. Sundeep Mathur, Mr. T. Sheshagiri Rao, Mr. Vikram S. Shriram, Mr. Vinod Khetawat and Mr. Zubin Irani.

Mr. Arvind Kumar Jain, Mr. Arun Seth, Mr. Anil K. Beejawat, Mr. Alok Tibrewala,  Mr. Gurmeet S. Singh, Mr. K. K. Kapoor, Mr. M. Sri Hari Nair, Mr. Mohit James, Mr. Mukesh Khetrapal, Mr. Narinder Mohan Mittal,  Mr. Pankaj Chandra, Mr. P. Vijayraghavan, Mr. P. V. Balasubramanian, Mr. Ram Rakesh Gaur, Mr. Rajan Bahri, Mr. Sujit Bakshi,  Mr. Sundeep Agarwal, Mr. Rajesh Ghosh, Mr. Subash Singh Virdi, Mr. Sanjay Monga and Mr. T. K. Ghosh.

Prof. A. K. Kamlani, Prof. Akshey Kumar, Prof. Ajay Chowhan, Mr. Ashok Tiwari, Prof. Amit Paul Singh, Mr. B. K. Pandey, Mr. Dilbagh Singh, Mr. J. Shiva Subramanian, Dr. Mukesh Chaturvedi, Prof. Prem Mohan Lacotia, Mr. Prem Singh Bains, Dr. R. Joga Rao,  Dr. S. K. Kaushik, Mr. Shyam Makhija,  Mr. Sekhar Chandrasekhar, Dr. S. K. Pandey and Mr. Virender Kumar Shrivastava.

Dr. Amit Arora, Dr. (Mrs.) Manjari Tirpathi, Dr. Prabhat Goel, Dr. Rakshit and Dr. Sukhwant Singh

They are my Friends and well wishers who have made my life worth living, I can not pay back the help, support and guidance they have provided to me from time to time and I will always be indebted to them for-ever. At the end I pray to God almighty to Bless all my friends and give them what-ever they have ever think-of in their lives and make them the most happiest human beings and great Friends on this Universe.

With Prayers,

Sudama-gurcharan

DON'T LET IT GO JUST FACE IT

Today I have received an e-mail from my well wisher who loves me so much that he keeps on sending me good notes/messages. I am thankful to my well-wisher and my God for this act of love. And the message which I have received today from my well-wisher was, -"LET IT GO"  what ever comes your way of love/live/success/promotion/job/relationship/friendship, if it disturbs you, comes your way, block your path, make your life miserable and disturbed, just 'Let It Go'. Forget every thing and move ahead, (good thoughts naa?) in your personal, professional  and social life if any thing create a problem just 'LET IT GO'

I have read this message several times today and started letting lots of things go out of my life, but some how I could not do it, because the things which I have deleted were very much there, I have tried to delete them several times but  of no-use, it's like, after deletion from your In-box and out box mail a copy remains there in your computer-hard-disk, like-wise, these memories also remains there in my LIFE, what can I do now?.

Things which were so hard to forget, I was trying from ages to forget them, but today it again came infront of me like it has never gone any where, these-memories were very much there , but yes I was fooling myself , so that it never rewind again, but of no use; [here one management lesson, if there is any situation you have to face it and if there is any problem you have to solve it, come what may; there-after take appropriate action and close the call.]. But to be very honest with you all, I could not close the call for the following reasons: 

1) The Problem will be solved on it's own, time is a big healer, 

     [har zakham sookh jata hai samay ke sath].

2) God-sent "Rehnuma" will come in my life and solve my problems 

     [like Yaksh Dev will come in my life and solve all my problem.]   

3) By getting older, I will loose my memory and forget every thing

     [Umar ke saath meri yaad-dast bhi dhimi par-jayegi]

But life is not a film or a TV serial, life is living every minutes/second of it, it's like 24X7  exercise  and each and every second you have to breath it, [I was told  that you have to breath 24000 time approximately within 24 hours of your day to survive]. 

I have sworn in today keeping you as my Judge that today I will speak the Truth, truth and only truth.  I am sorry sir, I am unable to Let It Go. There are so many things which happened in my life in last 50 years  and the conclusion is that I could not became a good Son, Brother, Student, Husband, Father, Friend, Disciple,  Neighbour, Citizen and a Human Being. I was very selfish, self centered, self-indulgent, see self, possessive, 

living for myself. I was living life like a Mathematics student, it's like: -

1) 1st you do good to me and then I will reciprocate  accordingly. 

2) What have you done for me, let me see, I will revert back later

3) What have you brought for me, after evaluation, will get you a gift

4) You always be good to me, I will respond as per my wims/fancy 

5) You love and sacrifices for me first, I will respond after judging.

I have realized one thing with my past experience that life is not a mathematics solving  exercise, you can not always make 2+2=4, for every situation and problem you need new solutions and answers and you can not send your duplicate or dummy to face it, you have to go your-self alone and face it up-front without any help, support and assistance from my family or friends. And with due respect to all my friends, I do not have to 'Let it Go', any more, but I have to come out of this situation with full mind, body and soul keeping the conscious mind awaken and like nature, the dead leafs will automatically go and new fruits and flowers will come of its own, lets be with the nature and welcome the spring season in our life with smile and courage. 

With Prayers,

Gurcharan. 

 

LIVING LIFE WITH CONSCIOUS MIND

Today I am seriously thinking about taking Sanyas and I see no reason why I should not go for it. Here, my Sanyas will be different, what our Baba ji has taught us that while living with the family & friends, you can still  renounce the whole-world or to be more precise & specific, renounce the world's materialistic  things, which are not at all necessary to survive in this world today. But few things, which are very important to survive, say for example: - 

A) Basic needs for living: 

     Jal, vayu, Agni, Dharti aur Akash [Water, Air, Fire, Earth & Sky],
     it's available in abundance, gifted to all Mankind by Nature & God.

B) Basic needs for survival: Food, Cloths and Shelter

C) Additional needs for comfortable living: 

     Good food, Cloths, Mobile, Debit card/s, TV, Fridge, AC's

     Washing Machine, Music System, RO-plant, Laptop/Palm top.

D) Extra needs for comfortable living: 

     Good Flat, Car, Club-membership/Foreign tour with family

E) Extra needs for more comfortable and safe future: 

     Fixed Deposits in the name of my family members

F) Extra-ordinary needs for more comfortable/safe future:

     Investment in Blue chip Companies/Gold/Jewellery

   

I am sure and confident, in this life I will not be able to earn so much to have every thing which I have mentioned above. But the most important thing here is that by all means one can not earn that much in ones whole-life, working honestly. Unless otherwise, like you win a lottery ticket "bumper-offer". But the big question  is, am I  so Lucky to win a jack-pot in this life-time? It sound so funny, un-realistic, un-practical and un-professional. How stupid I am even to think of all these things; why because, you do not even know about tomorrow and you are talking about secured-future, how absurd, -" Kal ka patta nahi aur chale hai bhawishya banane." 

One more thing, why I want to secure my future. Baba ji says, live for today, do your best honestly, sincerely and gracefully with-out hurting, cheating, bluffing, hiding and stealing any-one, ever and rest will come to place automatically and keep my-self, free, not pre-occupied,  with-out having deep relationship and engagement, because I will get a call from the BIG-BOSS/God Almighty, any time; and believe me, every thing will be left behind, [included all family members, cash, fixed-deposit, gold, property, shares/debentures, car, house-hold things, name, fame, designation, medals etc..] because, Antim-yatra per to Nir-vastra evam Aakele hi jana padta hai na. So why worry about secured future, let him [God-Almighty] secure our futute and we live our life for today only cent percent with our full Mind, Body & Soul and give our 100% to our family, our-job, our society, our friends and our-selves, keeping only one thing in our mind - "Mera Mujh mein kuch nahi, jo kuch hai so tera, tera tujh ko sopea kya lage mera". with an awakening and conscious mind.

     

Therefore, I have decided from today, I will live my life like a Sanyasi at the same time, perform all my duties with sincerity, honesty, hard work and without cheating, bluffing, hurting any-body physically or emotionally and giving my best and cent percent to what-ever I do. I will also consume the bare minimum things which  are actually required and necessary to survive [food, cloth and shelter only]. Please pray for me, so that I can stick to my resolution of Sanyas today with my conscious-mind and every new day of my life, till I live. May God Bless us all. Sab Da Rab Rakha.

With Prayers,

gurcharan.